UNFORGETABLE DY

I knw guys its too late..bt i still wanna share my special day n some of my friends make it more special this year....14/11/2008.. right guess... it's my B"DAY.

 My B"DY always start at mid ni8 ...when i was in india all friends used 2 call at ni8 only bt now i m at usa so not expecting much only few calls . But got so many unexpected calls...

Before 12 Garv called  bt before 12 he ends it exact on 12 DEBU called me unexpectedly as i was not expecting her call ..me thrilled  love u Debu..than Anni ji called me to come online where he was ready to celebrate my b;dy from india... i felt too good and touchy as i love him as my kid..he is my boy..love u. I cut the cake , than got call from Garv after Garv's call my bhatiji Varuna called me my sweet loving  beti i love her a lot she is my pet.. than my didz called me than Nimisha called me  than my Mamma . 1 very unexpected call was from Manu she is my bestmate from school time .. we share a relationship that doesn't need any words..hum ek doosre se saalo baat na bhi kare to bhi koi farak nahi padta  we remain always same as we are.. love u Manu... last but not least most unexpected and omg..it's Swapnil's call..the way he wish me omg i never imagined that.. he wish me by singing whole b'day song in such a sweet way that i still remember and smile came on my face.

I get lots of gifts  directly and indirectly.... all are so special and near 2 my heart 4 ever.

I got 14 gifts for each day of nov till 14th..

>From Debu i got special place in her blog.... http://share-moments.blogspot.com/2008/11/nov-14-one-more-reason-to-celebrate.html  

love u Debu 4 this

>Garv sent wishes on local Uganda radio and also asked eople 2 wish me ..so nice & so sweet of him..thats called a besti..

>Swapnil scold me for not gave address to him as he wanna send me some gift..so sweet of him

>Gaurav  my old friend GJ made 1 thread in his community dedicated 2 me n wrote a song for me ...so nice of him.

My B'day girl

My B'day girl

Girl..girl..girl..girl....

Dhokla Khila de

Jo khilade agar woh parathe...desi ghee waale

Haske dikhade,

GJ ko kabhi tu US se phone milale

GJ ke sath tu photo khicha le ..phir thoda b'day bhi bana le

Par GJ yeh maane na dekhi koi aisi US girl[na dekhi koi aisi us girl]

Dekhi lakh lakh B'day girl...

Ain't nobody like my B'day girl..

Dekhi lakh lakh B'day girl

Sab toh soni saadi B'day girl

Who's the hottest girl in the world?

My B'day girl

My B'day girl

My B'day girl

My B'day girl

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My day was ended after having very nice dinner at '' OLIVE GARDEN''..

In this way all my friends made my B'Dy an UNFORGETTABLE DAY of life..

THANKS 2 U ALL N LOVE U A LOT......

UR'S LOVING FRIEND...

VAISHALI/ VASU/ADITI/VAISU/SWEETS............

EK SAWAL

In dino aksar 1 sawal mujhe pareshaan sa kar jata hai...''kya hum wahi zindagi jee rahe hai , jo hum jeena chahte hai''?? Mujhe lagta hai ki aksar log jeena kuch tareeke se chahte hai aur woh kuch aur tareke se jee rahe hote hai...mein bhi apne liye yahi sochti hoon...kitna aasan ya kitna mushkil hai apni tarah ki zindagi jeena..aur kya humara parivaar  hume itni aazadi deta hai ki hum humari tarah se zindagi jee sake...may be its  little easy 4 boys than girls. Yeh sab mere mind mein bachpan se tha par USA aane ke baad yeh sawal aur pareshaan karne laga..kyuki yahan sabko apne tarah se jeene ki aazadi hai..jaise mere neighbourhood mein ek 12 yrs ke kid ne python ko apna pet banaya hai to ek ne gieco [1 type of lizard] ko apna pet banaya hai..itni azadi soch mein aur karne mein kya india mein hai..?? ya yuh kahu to indian samaj mein hai? shayad nahi..

mein aap sabhi se iss sawal ka jawab jaroor anna chahungi ki...'' KYA AAP APNI ZINDAGI APNE TAREEKE SE JEE RAHE HAI?'' ..aur kya aap apne parivaar ke virudh jakar apne sapne sakar karne ki himmat rakhte hai ya jo chal raha hai usko except kar lete hai....

feel free to express your views.....

Antim Sanskaar

Yeh zindagi kab kahan kaisa mod le le kise pata chalta hai? Zindagi hai to sapne bhi hote hai. Kuch poore kuch adhure aur hote hai kuch aise bhi jo toot jaate hai aur sath tod dete hume bhi.

         Pata nahi kab yeh sapne zindagi ka hissa bante chale gaye. Pata na tha ki yeh wo kamzoor sapne hai jo apne sath bahut kuch le jayenge. Yeh tutate rahe par ussne  apne aap ko kabhi unke sath tootne nahi diya. Buland iraade rakhe aur himmat bhi. Waqt gujarta gaya , sapne bade hote gaye aur sath hi poora hone ki aas bhi..

           Woh waqt dheere dheere aane laga jab himmat bhi kamzoor padne lagi, ehsaas to hua par dil ne manne se inkaar kiya. Har koshish nakamyabi ki seedhi banti chali gayi. Aisa nahi tha ki usse kuch nahi mila....mila na--''tareefe aur tareefe''. Par... ''tareefo se kya kabhi pet bhara hai kisi ka..??'' Kamyaabi wahi kehlati hai jo pet ke sath aapka bank balance bhi bhare.

             Aaya fir woh din jisne badal di uski duniya..''ek antim koshish aaj''..yahi soch ke nikali thi ghar se..issi ke liye ki thi mehnat peechle 25-20 dino se. Itn jyada yakeen tha ki aaj milegi asli kaamyabi.. Din gujarta gaya aur gujar gaye uske sapne bhi. Aaj woh toot gayi poori tarah...Kisi tarah usne apne sapno ko sameta aur ek ek karke har sapne ko dafan kar diya, usse kahan pata tha ki unsapno ke sath woh apni aatma bhi dafan kar rahi hai..Bakse{box} ko band karte hi laga aatma to andar hi kahi hai baki saaman ke sath...

             Woh baksa uske sapno ka hi nahi varan uska apna taboot ban gaya. Yeh kaisa antim sanskaar tha..na koi aaya na kisi ne dua ki aur bass- - - -

SAB KUCH KHATAM HO GAYA

SAB KUCH KHATAM HO GAYA

'' KASH WOH APNI EK ANTIM ICHA POORI KAR PAATI,

UNSAPNO KE SATH USSI TABOOT MEIN KHUD BHI SO JATI...''

UNDERSTANDING

Apart from relatives before marriage we have certain relations or friends are important for us. They really mean to us, but I have seen that after marriage most of time partner didn't understand or realise that those relation are really mean to other partner and we should respect them also.

 If husband's friends are important so wife should be cooperative and meet and maintain that friendship is important. Same applies for husband also, if some relations are important for wife than he should respect them equally.

 Why friendship ruin after marriage? I didn't understand this. I seen it from very closely as it happen in our friendship circle also. Distance in cities or homes doesn't make distance in heart, I believe in it and really mean it also.

 Every person has its own positive and negative. I believe maintain the relationship is tough and loosing friends are so easy. Easy ways are most of time are wrong. Beauty of relationship is to maintain it not ruin it . What if  friend of your's partner is not think same as you, not same age as you, not in same status as you.... these all  should not matter in friendship.

What really matter in friendship please tell me.....

AKELAPAN

''Baras rahi ghanghor ghata,

chal musafir chatri utha

chalna hai tujhko akele

chahe ghata garje ya bijli chamke

hai kaal raat ke kaal andhere

saye talak na sath hai tere

kar na kisi se aas tu abb

apno ne sath diya hai kab??

gar manjil tumhe pani hai

apni rah khud banani hai

toofano mein kashti chalani hai

madya manjhdhaar mein hi thah pani hai !!''

AZAB DUVIDHA

'' EK MANN EDHAR BHI, EK MANN UDHAR BHI ,

    KISE CHUNU HAI YEH AGNI PARIKSHA !

    HAI YEH ULJHAN KI KAUN HAI NYARA ?

    AZADI PYARI KI DESH JYADA PYARA ??

EK DHARTI WOH JAHAN LIYA JANAM ,

EK WOH JISE DIYA BACHPAN SE MANN !

EK TARAH HAI SAARE APNE.....

ESS AUR HAI SATRANGI SAPNE....

DHADAKTA HAI DIL, DARTA HAI MANN ,

KHO NA DU KAHIN APNO KO VIDESHI BANN !

DESH KI AUR KADAM BADHA KEHTA HAI DIL ,

HAR DIN APNE KEHTE HAI AAKAR JALDI MIL !!

DOOJI TARAF HAI SAPNE BULATE ,

MANN KO WAHIN KHEECH LE JAATE !

KYA KARU MEIN EH YEH AZAB DUVIDHA ,

DIMAG HAI JO MANN KA SATH NAHI DETA....

HAI ''VAISHALI'' YEH PARIKSHA KI GHADI

MANN BADA YA DIMAG KI SOCH BADI.....?? ''

DILEMMA

I don't have any answer for this Mona. 

I just say this but question asked by  her still keeping my mind working.

I started thinking all the things said by her....

No 1 is perfect in this world. But when we idolised someone from childhood and after a long period we got  to know that he is not with that strong character.

We can forgive our friends for all mistake they do, even our brother sister at some extend, but can we forgive our parents so easily & comfortably  for their mistakes ? 

----- here the point... NO  we can't...specially when its come to  our ideal is our own father .. 

Same thing happen to her. Her ideal was every thing to her. But same time as a women she always thought some personal things are not good in him. She even don't like his father-mother's ''sweet-sour'' relationship as sour is more there. But in young age she got to know a very bad part of her father. She was just shattered....

She talked to me only. She asked ''can i ever forgive my father or have same faith on him now..?'' this is one mistake  that i knw , its make me more ''shaqui'' as now onwards i am not going to have that much faith on him.

I don't have any answers. I just keep saying calm down. What else i can say ? as this is very personal n confidential matter.

But my point is... someone can forgive his/her parent's mistake...? & treat them as normal other human being ..?

WHEN WE FORGIVE OUR FRIENDS RELATIVES  EVEN SIBLINGS THAN WHY NOT PARENTS ? I KNOW ITS VRY DIFFICULT BUT THEY ARE ALSO HUMAN BEINGS THEY CAN ALSO DO MISTAKES...

BUT WE BOTH ARE IN GREAT DELIMMA ....

WHAT YOU SAY GUYS ....PLZ DO COMMENT..

    

BY-PIECES OF HEART

'' TAALI 1 HATH SE NAHI BAJTI''. FROM CHILDHOOD WE LISTEN THIS PHRASE, I CAN SAY ITS TRUE WHEN YOU QUARREL WITH SOME 1 BUT IT IS TURE IN FRIENDSHIP & IN LOVE? NAH, NO-NO.

IT IS NOT NECESSARY IF YOU DO FRIENDSHIP WITH SOME, BY HEART, THEY WILL GIVE YOU RESPONSE WITH SAME INTENSITY..

" FRIENDS ARE LIFE LINE" THIS IS MY MANTRA OF LIFE, BUT DO MY FRIENDS HAVE SAME FEELINGS TOWARDS ME? IT'S NOT COMPULSION. EVEN I DONT THINK ANY 1 CAN FEEL SAME DEAPTH AS I FEEL TOWARDS HER/HIM.. SO CLAP IS ALWAYS BY 1 PALM FOR ME.

WHY WE ALWAYS EXPECT WITH OTHERS? IT'S A HEART-BREAKING PROCESS. AT THE END YOU GET ONLY PIECES OF YOUR HEART.

" ROKO MAT JAANE DO"

I SEE THIS SENTENCE LIKE...."ROKO, MAT JAANE DO". DO EVERY THING, SHOW ALL CRAZINESS TO STOP YOUR FRIEND, SOMEHOW BRING THEM BACK.. BUT AT THE SAME TIME I ALWAYS EXPERIENCED { OTHERS TOWARDS ME} IS.." ROKO MAT, JAANE DO"....

&

MY HEART BROKE.......................................

GIVING : A HINDU SANSKRITI....

TODAY MORNING WHEN I WAS MAKING CHAPATIES...I JUST REMEMBER MOTHER'S 1 SENTENCE ALWYS MAKE 1ST CHAPATI FOR COW/DOG..BT IN USA U CANT FIND THEM SO I DONT DO..BUT I START THINKING Y THIS CUSTOM IS MADE FOR...

SUDDEN I REALISE ABOUT OUR GREAT HINDU SANSKRITI....ITS NOT JUST A MATTER OF GIVING TO COW [AS SHE IS AS LKE GOD] OR DOG..ITS A GREAT REASON BEHIND THAT....GIVING...GIVE FIRST BEFORE U TAKE..JUST LKE  ANY THING BEFORE U EAT U OFFER TO GOD AS HE GIVE US ALL THE THINGS..BUT GIVING TO OTHERS..POOR PEOPLE[LKE BEGGARS] ANIMALS ..ITS JUST STARTING OF LEARNING PROSESS OF GIVING N ITS START FROM EVERY MORNING....

I FEEL PROUD THAT I AM HINDU AND MY MOTHER TAUGHT ME SAME...GIVE FIRST..

HEY FRIEND..ANY THING U REALISE LIKE THAT..PLZ SHARE UR EXPERIANCES...10X..

MOST SHATTERING EXPERIANCE .....

WHATEVR U THINK N SOME TYMES THNGS GO OPPOSITE..N THT TYM U FEEL SAD...SAME WHN U THNK PEOPLE SEEMS U 2 B A GOOD ..BUT WHN D MOMENT U REALISE THT U R NT GOOD IN THR VIEW..U SHATTERD...

LIKE ME..

I ALWYS IN SCENE ..WHR  I ASSUME THT MY FNDS CONSIDER ME GOOD BT I GOT 2 KNW..SURPRISINGLY THT IN THR SIGHTS I M NT THT GOOD..ON THT MOMENT I JUST FEEL OOOH..MY MOUTH WAS OPEND N  I WAS STUNNED..1ST I THOUGHT THT SHE IS DOING MASTI BT SAME THNG WHN MY ANOTHER FRND REPEAT  O M G...I SHATTERD...I CANT EVEN THNK IN MY DREAMS THT MY FRNDS FEEL LKE THS..THY R MY BEST FRNDS..N I TRUST THM..SO FRM THT MOMENT STILL I M THINKING WHT 2 DO??

MY MIND IS NT WORKING....RAINS R THR IN CITY AS WELL AS ON FACE..

SORRY FRNDS....THT ONLY I CAN SY NW....BT STILL I LOVE U...

RISHTEY

एक शब्द तुम कहो , चार हम कहें
एक बात पर तुम अडे रहो ,
तो फिर बहस हम भी करें ,
कितना आसान है ना रिश्तो को तोड़ना ,
जो है काम अति मुश्किल वह है जोड़ना ।

वक्त होता नही कभी , निकालना पड़ता है....
थोडा सा ध्यान रिश्तो पे डालना पड़ता है ...

सीचना होता है प्यार से, पर करता कौन है ??
रिश्ते निभाने की बात आजकल सोचता कौन है ???

VAISSHALI...................


FRNDS UR COMMENTS R MY INSIPIRATION.......

INTEZAAR

वह जाने जो करे इंतज़ार,

कैसे होता है यह मन बेक़रार

हर पल उठते - गीरते सवाल,

नजरो का तकना , पलको का न झपकना

ख्यालो में खो जाना

होश का फाख्ता होना

यह होता है इंतज़ार इंतज़ार इंतज़ार ........

A.B.C.D.

HI! FRIENDS CONFUSED BY TITLE?? NO NO DEAR I M NT GOING 2 TEACH U ENGLISH ALPHABETS..

THIS ARTICLE IS BASED ON MY 3 MONTHS EXPERIANCE & MANY TIMES LISTEN BY AMERICAN-INDIANS ON VISIT TO INDIA.VERY 1ST TIME I COME TO USA & WTHIN 10-15 DYS LOTS OF INDIAN BECAME MY FRIENDS. I ATTENDED 10-15 PARTIES TILL DATE.VERY MUCH INTERACTION WTH THEM AS NAVRATRI& DIWALI THIS YEAR I CELEBRATED WTH THEM.

AMERICAN BORN CONFUSED DESI[A.B.C.D]VERY COMMAN WORD FOR INDIAN-AMERICAN IN AMERICA...

PEOPLE CAME TO AMERICA 2 BROADEN THEIR BANK BALANCE. THEY ACHEIVED THEIR FINACIAL TARGET BUT SOME HOW THEY ARE STILL IN INDIA BY THEIR MIND. KEEP INCREASING BANK BALANCE AS IN SAME SPEED REDUCING BROADMIDEDESS THATS WHY THEY ARE STILL DESI. THEY EVEN DONT REALISE THAT INDIA HAS FAR AWAY AHEAD AFTER THEY REACHED TO USA. AFTER COMING HERE THEIR MIND'S ARE STILL INTHAT PHASE OF INDIA, THE TIME THEY COME.THEIR CHILDREN ARE GROWN UP/BORN HERE SO THEY ARE AMERICAN BORN, THEY KNOW INDIAN CULTURE BY CELEBRATING FESTIVALS ON HOLIDAYS OR GOING TO SUNDAY RELIGIOUS CLASS. THEIR MIND'S ARE BROADEN AS THEY BROUGHT UP HERE IN HALF INDIAN-HALF AMERICAN WAY.

GROWING UP CHILD IS MAJOR HEADACHE OF PARENTS. AS PARENTS ARE HAPPY TO HUG AMERICAN DOLLARS BUT DO NOT HAVE GUTTS TO HUG AN AMERICAN CULTURAL FREEDOM. THEY WANT THEIR CHILD TO USE"THE LAND OF OPPORTUNITY" IN STUDIES, BUISNESS & ALL, BUT SAME TIME THEY DID NOT GIVE THEM MUCH FREEDOM..

THEY ARE SO CONFUSED WHAT TO DO..?RATHER GIVING TRUE ADVICE&FREEDOM THEY WANT THEIR GIRLS TO GO GIRLS CONVENT SCHOOL. THEY FORCE THEIR CHILDREN TO ATTEND ALL CULTURE ACTIVITIES GOING IN MANDIR OR OTHER INDIAN'S PLACES SAKE OF APNI SANSKRITI..

BUT WHAT THEY ACHIEVED?? THEY STILL ARE IN THEIR TIME PERIOD. NOW INDIA IS ALSO SOOOO CHANGED. GRLS/BOYS OVER IN INDIA HVE GF/BF IN VERY YOUNG AGE..WHY PARENTS OVER HERE NOT LIKE THT THEIR KIDS HVE BF/GF?? JUST BECAUSE D SAKE OF TO TEACH THEM LESSONS OF MORALITY?? THEY DONT UNDERSTAND THE DIRECTION OF WINDS HAS CHANGED..

BETTER PART IS IN USA CULTURE IS AT LEAST PARENTS KNW MY DAUGHTER/SON IS HAVING DATE WITH HIS/HER BF/GF. NOT LIKE INDIA , THINGS HAPPEN BEHIND THE SCENE..

ACCEPT THE GLOBALITY। FREEDOM IS IN THE AIR। COMMON GIVE THEM BETTER ADVICE & LET THEM EXPLORE THE WORLD। TEACH THEM PROS &CONS OF EVERY EXPECT OF WHAT THEY ARE GOING TO DO। YOUR CHILD SAY LIE TO YOU, ITS BETTER YOU TEACH ABOUT CONTRACEPTIVE TO YOUR CHILD। WHY SO FEAR॥?? WHEATHER YOU BELIEVE OR NOT THEY DO WHATEVR THEY WANT। ITS BETTER TO PUT HAND ON THEIR BACK TO SUPPORT IN DIFFICULTIES RATHER THEN PUSHING THEM AWAY....

DEAR FRIENDS YOUR VALUABLE COMMENTS/SUGGESTIONS ARE WELCOME॥PLZ LEAVE UR COMMENT BELOW...

E DOST

थामा है हाथ तुमने

जब लगे हम डूबने,

अँधेरे में दीया जलाया

सही रास्ता है दीखलाया ।

जरुरत में आवाज़ देना

दौडे चले आयेंगे,

जाओ कहीं भी मगर ,

बन याद साथ जायेंगे ।

है दोस्ती का नाता हमारा

दील में कहीं हक है तुम्हारा,

हाथ यूहीं बढाते रहना

ये नाता सदा नीभाते रहना।

दोस्त है हम तुम्हारे,

सदा तुम्हारे संग रहेंगे,

तुम मानो या न मानो

प्यार यूँही हरदम करेंगे । ।

प्रेम : भारतीय संस्कृति के परिप्रेक्ष में

प्रेम : भारतीय संस्कृति के परिपेक्ष में

आज भी भारतीय समाज अपने दृष्टिकोण को व्यापक नही कर सका है या यू कहे की हमने अपना एक दायरा बना लीया है. मस्तिष्क से कभी उस से आगे सोचने की ज़ुर्रत भी नही कर सकते है. मेरे मन में प्रेम को लेकर हमेशा से एक सवाल रहा है की प्यार में इतना बवाल क्यों? प्रेम भारतीय संस्क्र्ती का अटूट हिस्सा है, हमारे धर्म में प्रेम को सर्वोपरी माना है, फिर समाज में क्यों नही ? क्यों हर व्यक्ति चाहता है की उसका प्रेमी,प्रेम करे पर उस के हिसाब से . प्रेम वह है जहाँ कहा जाता है की ..उससे खुला छोड़ दो, यदी वह वापस तुम्हारे पास आता है तो वह हमेशा तुम्हारा है, और नही तो वह कभी तुम्हारा था ही नही..... पर इसे स्वीकार कोई नही करता है..क्यों हर भारतीय नारी पूजा तो सबसे पहले गणेशजी की करती है पर  पतिकी कामना हमेशा राम जी जैसे पुरुष की करती है.

सभी स्वार्थी है सिर्फ अपने बारे में सोचते है..''कृष्ण'' प्रेम को सही ठहराया जाता है वही ''बटुक्नाथ'' को गलत।

पर इस स्थिति की जिम्मेदार एक स्त्री ही है, यदी वह साक्षर हो और अपने पैरो पर खड़ी हो तो क्या फर्क पड़ता है बटुक्नाथ जैसे पुरुष का जींदगी में होना या न होना..अपने आप में साक्षर होना बहुत बड़ा बल है , फिर जुली, मिली कोई भी आये क्या फर्क पड़ता है? स्त्री स्वंतंत्राता की मिसालहै आज के दौर की फिल्म.." कभी अलविदा न कहना " . हर स्त्री को अपने फैसले लेने का पूरा अधीकार है, उसकी ज़िंदगी उसकी है ..कोई और उसे नही चला सकता.. आज यह फिल्म पुरुष प्रधान समाज को बहुत बुरी ही लगेगी..पर वक़्त यही आ रहा है जहाँ पुरुष के होने न होने का बहुत ज्यादा असर किसी स्त्री पर नही होगा अर्थात् हर स्त्री अपनी ज़िंदगी, प्यार की तारनहार होगी न की उसका पति, पिता या भाई.....अपने प्रेम को स्वयम ही चुंनेगी .........