1/10/2008

A.B.C.D.

HI! FRIENDS CONFUSED BY TITLE?? NO NO DEAR I M NT GOING 2 TEACH U ENGLISH ALPHABETS..

THIS ARTICLE IS BASED ON MY 3 MONTHS EXPERIANCE & MANY TIMES LISTEN BY AMERICAN-INDIANS ON VISIT TO INDIA.VERY 1ST TIME I COME TO USA & WTHIN 10-15 DYS LOTS OF INDIAN BECAME MY FRIENDS. I ATTENDED 10-15 PARTIES TILL DATE.VERY MUCH INTERACTION WTH THEM AS NAVRATRI& DIWALI THIS YEAR I CELEBRATED WTH THEM.

AMERICAN BORN CONFUSED DESI[A.B.C.D]VERY COMMAN WORD FOR INDIAN-AMERICAN IN AMERICA...

PEOPLE CAME TO AMERICA 2 BROADEN THEIR BANK BALANCE. THEY ACHEIVED THEIR FINACIAL TARGET BUT SOME HOW THEY ARE STILL IN INDIA BY THEIR MIND. KEEP INCREASING BANK BALANCE AS IN SAME SPEED REDUCING BROADMIDEDESS THATS WHY THEY ARE STILL DESI. THEY EVEN DONT REALISE THAT INDIA HAS FAR AWAY AHEAD AFTER THEY REACHED TO USA. AFTER COMING HERE THEIR MIND'S ARE STILL INTHAT PHASE OF INDIA, THE TIME THEY COME.THEIR CHILDREN ARE GROWN UP/BORN HERE SO THEY ARE AMERICAN BORN, THEY KNOW INDIAN CULTURE BY CELEBRATING FESTIVALS ON HOLIDAYS OR GOING TO SUNDAY RELIGIOUS CLASS. THEIR MIND'S ARE BROADEN AS THEY BROUGHT UP HERE IN HALF INDIAN-HALF AMERICAN WAY.

GROWING UP CHILD IS MAJOR HEADACHE OF PARENTS. AS PARENTS ARE HAPPY TO HUG AMERICAN DOLLARS BUT DO NOT HAVE GUTTS TO HUG AN AMERICAN CULTURAL FREEDOM. THEY WANT THEIR CHILD TO USE"THE LAND OF OPPORTUNITY" IN STUDIES, BUISNESS & ALL, BUT SAME TIME THEY DID NOT GIVE THEM MUCH FREEDOM..

THEY ARE SO CONFUSED WHAT TO DO..?RATHER GIVING TRUE ADVICE&FREEDOM THEY WANT THEIR GIRLS TO GO GIRLS CONVENT SCHOOL. THEY FORCE THEIR CHILDREN TO ATTEND ALL CULTURE ACTIVITIES GOING IN MANDIR OR OTHER INDIAN'S PLACES SAKE OF APNI SANSKRITI..

BUT WHAT THEY ACHIEVED?? THEY STILL ARE IN THEIR TIME PERIOD. NOW INDIA IS ALSO SOOOO CHANGED. GRLS/BOYS OVER IN INDIA HVE GF/BF IN VERY YOUNG AGE..WHY PARENTS OVER HERE NOT LIKE THT THEIR KIDS HVE BF/GF?? JUST BECAUSE D SAKE OF TO TEACH THEM LESSONS OF MORALITY?? THEY DONT UNDERSTAND THE DIRECTION OF WINDS HAS CHANGED..

BETTER PART IS IN USA CULTURE IS AT LEAST PARENTS KNW MY DAUGHTER/SON IS HAVING DATE WITH HIS/HER BF/GF. NOT LIKE INDIA , THINGS HAPPEN BEHIND THE SCENE..

ACCEPT THE GLOBALITY। FREEDOM IS IN THE AIR। COMMON GIVE THEM BETTER ADVICE & LET THEM EXPLORE THE WORLD। TEACH THEM PROS &CONS OF EVERY EXPECT OF WHAT THEY ARE GOING TO DO। YOUR CHILD SAY LIE TO YOU, ITS BETTER YOU TEACH ABOUT CONTRACEPTIVE TO YOUR CHILD। WHY SO FEAR॥?? WHEATHER YOU BELIEVE OR NOT THEY DO WHATEVR THEY WANT। ITS BETTER TO PUT HAND ON THEIR BACK TO SUPPORT IN DIFFICULTIES RATHER THEN PUSHING THEM AWAY....

DEAR FRIENDS YOUR VALUABLE COMMENTS/SUGGESTIONS ARE WELCOME॥PLZ LEAVE UR COMMENT BELOW...


8 comments:

Debarati said...

waise i agree to your thoughts about being global na all...par i think ki traditions n sankriti dont only have bad sides!!..positive effects v hai!!
Now parents can give freedom to their children but how can they stop thinking/worrying about them!!..after all they are their parents!!freedom doest make them free from thoughts abt their children par makes them more worried!!
But the thought about being free with kids n disscussing important things like contraceptive or something is really important in our society specially in indian society...
now that i speak abt holding our traditions doesnt mean that parents shud keep their kids away from this type of info!!!..becoz sharing such things only makes them less worried abt the lives of their child!!! So grow up parents!!!...its time for your action :)

Manik said...

Very truly written. The actual problem is of communication gap. In today's world all kind of info is easily available and point is in regulating it through communication, chats etc and have open view of everything and not in imposing restrictions, which can be overcome very easily....

I liked SMS writing style also, it makes me think more as I try to figure out what is written...

Overall, Good Work!

MS said...

hi vaishali..
i agree with you...
parents here push their children to be "indian" and have indian friends. But it think by pushing them can have a good effect too..
my cousins are very much indian and my friends are bollywood buffs because their parents pushed them or in a better word, encouraged them to follow indian-ality. But on the other side, i have friends who think they are coconuts: brown from outside and white from inside.
All in all, extreme pushiness is not good. but i would not mind a little.
-mitali!

Vaishali said...

hi! frnds...10x 4 ur comments..
debu,manik&mitali,
i agree wth u bt d as per topic..american indians parents r still in 19's n kids hve 21st century mentality. mera matlab yeh tha ki.."jaisa desh waisa bhesh" hona chahiye..
just thnk abt it ..kya hum un forieners ko apne mein shamil karte hai kya? jo indian culture ko india mein rehkar nahi apnaate.......thts it

Anonymous said...

ld be broad minded like u, & u doing ajob by sharing ur experiences with us

kriti said...

yaar parents nahi bhool sakte indian culture ko tabhi to accept nhi kar pate reality ko, truth ko....wo kabhi nahii chahte ki humare bacche kisssi dusre desh mai apne sankskar n all bhool jae...tabhi ye sab hota...par wo bhool jate hai...jaise aas paas log honge hum bhi waise ban jayenge...wat we call survival for the fittest...

but no doubt a bitter truth but parents will nvr understood ths feelings thts a truth 2...
baki jo hai thhek hai

.:: Shrey ::. said...

I really agreed what u wrote....if our young generation learn about this they will never let their Future Halfzz drown in the sink.....

""hum un forieners ko apne mein shamil karte hai kya? jo indian culture ko india mein rehkar nahi apnaate.......thts it""

A true Thinker n Speaker ....U'll g fra yaar..

krishi said...

A single rose can be my garden... a single friend, my world...........for Indians its not easy to accept the cultural change but to get the dollars everyone will love to have them....but time is changing so we must think the way world is ..and why we must be keeping ourselves behind ..and that when we know that we and our thinking and attitude is not like our ancestors...so change is the part and parcel of nature and of our life...change is must and it can bring beauty to all of us.
So like dollars beauty is also admired by all we humans.