6/28/2008

DILEMMA

I don't have any answer for this Mona. 
I just say this but question asked by  her still keeping my mind working.

I started thinking all the things said by her....
No 1 is perfect in this world. But when we idolised someone from childhood and after a long period we got  to know that he is not with that strong character.

We can forgive our friends for all mistake they do, even our brother sister at some extend, but can we forgive our parents so easily & comfortably  for their mistakes ? 
----- here the point... NO  we can't...specially when its come to  our ideal is our own father .. 

Same thing happen to her. Her ideal was every thing to her. But same time as a women she always thought some personal things are not good in him. She even don't like his father-mother's ''sweet-sour'' relationship as sour is more there. But in young age she got to know a very bad part of her father. She was just shattered....

She talked to me only. She asked ''can i ever forgive my father or have same faith on him now..?'' this is one mistake  that i knw , its make me more ''shaqui'' as now onwards i am not going to have that much faith on him.

I don't have any answers. I just keep saying calm down. What else i can say ? as this is very personal n confidential matter.

But my point is... someone can forgive his/her parent's mistake...? & treat them as normal other human being ..?

WHEN WE FORGIVE OUR FRIENDS RELATIVES  EVEN SIBLINGS THAN WHY NOT PARENTS ? I KNOW ITS VRY DIFFICULT BUT THEY ARE ALSO HUMAN BEINGS THEY CAN ALSO DO MISTAKES...

BUT WE BOTH ARE IN GREAT DELIMMA ....

WHAT YOU SAY GUYS ....PLZ DO COMMENT..
    

6 comments:

Debarati said...

@Vasu
well a serious thought indeed...infact i too idolize my parents and i cant ever permit a thought crossing that my parents could do something wrong or unlawful ..cant even give a chance to some thought of that sort!
I think parents should be careful once they have their children idolizing them... n yup even though i agree ki parents can do wrong as by any other normal human being and they should be forgiven for that..
may be i myself couldn't ignore this so i cant advice 4 ignoring as well

Neil A.K.A NS...Nilabh.... said...

simple thing...they are the ones who gave us the birth...they r ones who r behind our success till date...tell are everything for us...then what is the big deal in forgiving our parents...

well if they can forgive our mistakes then are no more extra ordinary person...!

we are juz a simple persons indeed..!

rest all depends on the person to person point of view...!

Manik said...

... well going by single rule for all persons we should behae with them in the same way as we would with anyone else. But at the same time our "near" and "dear" one's are not just other beings for us and are special to us and therefore are more likely to be expected something high from but still we can and should try to overlook things as we will never be able to change things that happened and only things that can occur to us is living a happy life with the people we love. Probably a smile is the thing we crave for, even though everything is not ideal behind the situation but still there is no pint messing present fun for some moron past, which might have been out of our and their controls as well...


...can type a lot on this issue but off late have learnt just one thing you can argue a lot but the point still remains nothing will be changed so learn to live with the facts or try to forget them and live with a smile on your face as much is lost but still something is with us...

sampada said...

if u want to forgive a person for his mistake, then it depends on the mistake, what mistake it is
& not on the relations.

as every1 over here is human being, maybe that person is father for her, but for other it may be friend,brother.

yaa aas per this topic goes it never ending, whether 1 will forgive or not, & if forgives then to what extent,it depends on their nature way of accepting things & that persons importance in their life

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Vaisshali said...

Thnks Debz, Manik, Nilabh n sampada